I know what you mean. I hate
guys like that too, all the more so because I went through that
stage myself. Oh, I was way too
subtle to actually say an
asshole thing like that. I just hung around with (and silently lusted after) women who were
lesbians, got into the music, wore hair short but not in a
guy kind of way, read the poetry and the essays, went to the
marches... in short, learned a lot, and got into some cool music I still like, but GOD was it for
the wrong reasons. I still
blush thinking about it. I just hope that nobody I knew at the time caught on to the boundless
lameness just
below the surface. I mean, why couldn't I just come out and say "
Assertive,
self-sufficient women fascinate me, and there seems to be a high
concentration of them among lesbians. I wish I was as cool as they are."
I think part of it is wanting the one thing you can't have if you're
male. A man can
have sex with a man or a woman. A man can have
sex with a woman who is bisexual and prefers mostly women (though it takes some doing and being a
wuss lesbian-wannabe guy doesn't cut it, strangely enough). He can even have
gender-reassignment surgery and become a
dude who looks like a
lady. But he can't be a lesbian, and should
just deal with it.